Why Comparison Either Makes You Feel Superior or Inferior?

When I compare myself with others, I either feel superior or inferior to them. There is also a chance that I feel jealous. This negativity doesn't help me do the best in what I have to do. It is true that every actor has a special part to play, and so do I. When I remember the special role that I have to play in my life and understand its significance, I will be able to give my best to it.

Taken at face value, a superiority complex is a narcissistic process, indicating that you feel inferior all of the time. You compare yourself to others to strengthen your self-image because it is in the comparison that you fuel a rewarding sense of superiority.

Aim to know what you like most about yourself, and then point out what you like most about the types of people you know, and instead of comparing as superior or inferior, just see one another as unique individuals of equality, and all have the potential to grow, develop, and improve, just as you do no matter how different they are.

Dysfunctional Childhood

Your superiority complex could simply be a ruse to protect yourself due to a dysfunctional childhood. If you look down on everyone around you, this gives you the freedom to not network with them, which keeps your lack of social skills and low sense of yourself in check. In short, you’re not shy but damaged and not better than everyone else, as you may assume.

Then, how will I develop stable self-esteem based on my real accomplishments?

You should strive to accomplish great things, but your self-esteem should never be based on your accomplishments, which will never bring you lasting peace or happiness.

There will always be another goal, another dream to accomplish. This vicious cycle never ends. Usually, life doesn’t unfold on your terms. Sometimes you lose. Random accidents do happen; bricks fall on people's heads, road accidents or business losses can stifle anyone.

What do you do when you lose?

You need to base your self-esteem on something bigger than that. Something that can never be taken away from you, so even if the world goes to hell, you can still be okay.

What is that something, you may ask? I like to see it’s a core part of your identity.

Your compassion, your relationships, and your honesty.

Something that is and will always be with you. If you can do that, you will not only achieve for the sake of your self-esteem; but also accomplish it for the sake of accomplishment.

No matter how hopeless or bleak things appear, the moment always comes when suddenly our spirit revives, and hope is reborn. That is why we must never give up.